Dating is fun
It seems like people don’t date anymore, they just hookup. It’s a series of text messages and smiley faces and then they end up with no buildup, just straight to the intercourse. It seems very utilitarian and somewhat boring to me. Where’s the buildup, where’s the sexual tension and the chemistry that builds as you flirt with each other? The quickie way is like eating the heat and serve mac ’n cheese meals. Yeah, you get fed but it’s bland. The flirty build up style ends in sex that’s like a 5-star gourmet meal, very luscious and tasty. In tantric texts, they allude to the joy of build-up. The eye-gazing, the synchronized breathing, the caressing, the raunchy talk is a way for your battery to charge, to allow for the masculine polarity and the feminine polarity to express itself. The culmination is in coupling but it is so much more charged, more mind-blowing when each person plays with the polarity and lets the tension build. As you learn to hold more charge in your body, you will have more extended orgasms. It will take you to ecstatic realms.
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if i were to remark on this notion of ‘no build up’ with its application to the online dating world….the problem is not that the build up isnt there but that the build up is isolated to a personal experience and that when the two persons are together and into the sex the difference in their individual charges from behind their own computer screens becomes evident. they are both charged and sort of had this verbal foreplay, it just wasn’t a shared experience so the sex is often something of a miss. at least thats my 2 cents from my experiences.
Love your comment Robb- very insightful-thanks for visiting.
Things change. We all know that. and now with the advent of technology, people seem to take advantage of it. Some people want it the easy way and that is quite disturbing. You are right, people don’t date anymore… they just hook up. This is the sad reality. People should realize that there is more to dating and having meaningful conversations than hooking up.
Yes. What ever happened to the fine art of dating? What happened to the effort of knowing someone? Technology has brought a lot of changes in our society. And its impact somehow affects the behavior and principle of some. I wonder if there’s still someone who’s still willing to take their time and prepare a wonderful date for the one he or she loves…