I came upon an interesting and useful phenomenon. Put simply, you can use sexual charge or energy to clear out old emotional triggers that are stored in your body-mind. This process can be quick and easy to do if you’ve had some training in energy work, meditation or intuition. For people new to those concepts, it may take a little more time to learn, depending on how quick a study you are.
Before I get into more details, I’ll go into a basic description of what kundalini energy is and how it ties in with tantra.
The literal translation of the word Kundalini (kuṇḍalinī, Sanskrit: कुण्डलिनी) means ‘coiled’. In certain yogic traditions, kundalini represents an unconscious, instinctive or libidinal force or Shakti. It is often pictured coiled at the base of the spine like a sleeping serpent, and in many Western traditions, it is termed ‘serpent power’. It has also been described as a residual power of pure desire. Sri Ramana Maharshi maintained that the kundalini energy is nothing but the natural energy of the Self, where Self is the universal consciousness present in every being or life force energy, and that the individual mind of thoughts cloaks this natural energy from unadulterated expression (source: Wikipedia). Some teachings say that kundalini awakening, Self-realization, and God-consciousness are all the same thing, and self-inquiry meditation is considered a very natural and simple means of reaching this goal.
The great psychoanalyst Carl Jung studied kundalini yoga and it presented him with a model for the development of higher consciousness; he interpreted its symbols according to a process of individuation. Meaning that, you can use tantric tools for pleasure and personal growth – how cool is that!
Tantra, in its most literal translation, means ‘an expansion of one’s consciousness through the senses’. Since many in the West associate Tantra with sexuality (although according to the above definition, it encompasses much more than that), today’s blog will address that aspect of life force energy.
So, for simplicity sake, I am referring to kundalini as the natural energy of the Self. Another way to say it is life-force energy. One way to express your life force energy is to feel it as a sexual charge.
Let’s say you have an emotional ‘packet’ of old memories – say, from childhood where you felt like an ugly duckling or you felt like an outsider, or, old hurts from past lovers/mates that trigger feelings of distance to new loves. Your adult self knows that those triggers aren’t true, and most of the time, your logical self can over-ride that old ‘packet’ of stored memories. But every so often, that old pattern gets triggered and you are in that state of being the outsider, feeling left out, or feeling distance from a new love – you hate being in that state. How do you get rid of it?
One way is to do the following process:
- Practice some very easy meditation for 10 minutes (for instance -breathe in to a count of 8, hold, and exhale to a count of 8, and notice the breathe) – click here for more ideas.
- Then, Set two intentions:
- Set the intention to gently trigger that packet of memories soon so that you can feel it in your body. (You want it to be gently triggered, not hugely triggered, or you will feel too emotionally overwhelmed to get into an observer state and clear it out. Right?) You can set the intention for someone you know to trigger it or just leave it open to be triggered in the most gentle way possible, however that comes into your world.
- Set the intention that right after that, you will be with someone you feel a sexual attraction to (or a simpler alternative is to have access to a sexy movie).
- Remind yourself to be prepared to watch what comes up- pretend you are an observer watching a movie and that you as actor are star of the show.
- Once you feel that state of mind triggered, i.e. you feel a bit like an outsider or an ugly duckling or that distance, go into an observer space or witness space and see where you feel that most in your body.
- Then, as you notice where you hold that packet of emotional charge/memory in your body, begin to let your sexual energy arise and flow it towards that spot in your body (or field), imagine the life force energy cleans it out and the sexual charge helps to release the unpleasant emotional charge in that area of the body. (For those in an intimate relationship, you can also ask your partner to help – you can flow sexual energy there together.)
- You may need to do this a few times or several times to fully release the old emotional charge. Be patient with yourself.
- Have fun with it!
