The Anatomy of Fearless and Sexy: There is Nothing Wrong with You

How often do you feel fearless and sexy?  Ready to take on any challenge.  If you don’t feel it, how do you get that feeling in order to enjoy a date, meet new people, and experience pleasure throughout your day?

I was working with a new client who, from my perspective, is tall, glamorous and  beautiful.  During our time together, she admitted to me that she always feels anxious and uncomfortable in her own skin, like there is something wrong with her.  The way she carried herself revealed her own self image because despite her graceful long structure, she slouched forward and drastically narrowed her chest and shoulders.

Many women can grapple with their own sense of confidence and body image.  There is a common belief that if we lack confidence, it is because there is something wrong with us.  What I have discovered in working with my clients is that when they feel insecure, anxious, or uncomfortable in their own skin, they are actually interfering with their bodies own natural design by:

• tightening their neck and shoulder muscles,
• pulling their ribcage forward,
• squeezing their arms in towards their ribs,
• compressing their diaphragm
• generally, making it impossible to BREATHE

When you physically cannot breathe, you will necessarily feel nervous, anxious, uncomfortable, insecure, and unattractive.  This is the anatomy of insecurity.

YOU ARE FEARLESS AND SEXY!

The ANATOMY OF FEARLESS AND SEXY lies in how you use your body and breath  Releasing old, harmful tension allows your spine to lengthen and your chest to widen.  Your ribs “dance” with your breath and continually move with every inhale and exhale.  Your shoulders soften away from your ears.  Your entire body is long and your posture is dynamic!  Releasing all the compressing tension changes your emotional state as well.  Since your body can move with your breath, you feel fearless, capable, and sexy!

During the session with my client, I helped her discover what she was doing with her body and her breath that forced her to be anxious and uncomfortable.  In knowing that there wasn’t anything wrong with herself, she felt a sense of relief and calm.  When she walked out of the session, she was smiling, tall, and open.  She looked sexy!

When you are feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or unattractive, take some time to listen to your body.  Notice the position you are holding yourself in and if you are interfering with the natural easy flow of breath.  Then, gently, slowly, and kindly UNDO tight muscles.  Return to your dynamic open and tall posture.  Soften.  Remember: You ARE Sexy and Fearless.

Sharon Jakubecy, Your Personal Director, Certified Alexander Technique teacher.

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